6 Stages of Change… with Judith Tremblay
STAGES OF CHANGE
Perhaps it’s the change in weather that’s brought this on, but I’ve been hearing from many people lately about their wanting to change, not able to change, unwilling to change, needing to change, being afraid to change. Whether you are thinking of ending an unhealthy relationship, changing the way you eat, changing jobs or giving up an addiction, it may help you to become aware of the stages of change.
There are six stages of change. The first is the “Pre-contemplation” stage. At this point, you are really not aware that you have a need to change. You will find yourself rationalizing your behaviour, defending yourself against the need to change or maybe even blaming someone else for the situation in which you find yourself.
Second is the “Contemplation” stage. This is when you start to think there may be a problem that needs to change. You become curious and start looking for information. You may develop an urge to gain more insight into what is happening, perhaps developing a desire to make a change. This is where most people procrastinate. It is a good idea to ensure you have developed good stress management skills to handle any stress that may arise from this point and beyond.
The third stage is the “Preparation” stage. You seriously begin to look at options to make the change. Your view is changing from the past to the present as you become ready to make new choices. You might talk with others about how they accomplished the change you wish to make. You will work through the obstacles in your path and the challenges you may face. Change is becoming a priority. You develop a plan to make the change. This is a time of decision making and commitment to change.
Now you have arrived at the fourth stage – the “Action” stage. You work through the old thoughts, feelings and behaviours that kept you stuck. You will probably ask for help to work through the painful emotions, the hurt and the effort to make the change. People will notice that you are changing. Sometimes, people in your life will not like the changes you are making, and you will get “change back” messages. You might need help to resist going back to the old behaviours, to keep making progress.
After the Action stage is the “Maintenance” Stage. In this stage, you are moving towards a healthy balance, re-evaluating your new behaviours and making necessary adjustments along the way. You have developed new, healthy habits. However, you must remain vigilant in order not to revert back to your old behaviours.
You have now arrived at the stage where your new habits are established and no longer require the same amount of vigilance. Make sure you give yourself a reward for your accomplishment and continue to practice the new behaviour!
Paths to Change provides one-on-one counselling as well as coaching to reduce stress, overcome procrastination and become better at self-care.
Judith Tremblay has spent over 20 years developing the skills to assist people to make changes in their lives. She believes that we all have the knowledge and solutions we need within us, and with guidance and support, we can make the changes we must to reach our potential and enjoy a more fulfilled life.
Check out the Paths to Change website.
Holiday help…
If organizing your home before the holidays is on your to-do list, take advantage of this month’s offer.
Contact A New Leaf by November 15, 2017 and let us help you get ready.
Pay for 3 hours and receive a 4th hour at no charge!
GIANT Book Sale!
If you love to read and live in the Guelph area, don’t forget to check out the Friends of the Guelph Public Library Giant Book Sale being held October 20-22, 2017.
To see what else is happening, click here.
Entryways
It’s finally starting to feel like fall. Our weather the past few weeks has been more like the summer we were hoping to have. Make some time to get out and see the fall colours.
With Canadian Thanksgiving already behind us, it’s almost time for ghosts and goblins to start knocking on our doors for Hallowe’en treats.
One day last week, Ayr (a 30-minute drive from here) had SNOW! It turns out that it was fake snow, as crews are filming a new TV show.
Back to reality! Last month we talk about Mud Rooms. As promised, this month’s topic is Entryways.
ENTRYWAYS
The main entrance to your home can be very different if you have a mud room. If you don’t have the luxury of both, your entrance needs to perform both duties.
Most people want their main entrance to look like a page from a decorating magazine. Really think about this for a moment. Decide whether that’s realistic for your home.
Planning storage for your entryway requires making a list of everything that you would like to store there.
Do you have a closet to store outerwear and footwear?
Do you need to:
- add hooks to hang backpacks?
- hang a family calendar or checklist in your entry?
- have room for shelves?
- have a rack for shoes and/or a boot tray?
- have room for a chest of drawers?
- hang a mirror or artwork?
- have a table for mail and keys?
- have a bench or stool to sit on–where people can put on shoes and boots?
- have the budget for built-in cabinets?
Don’t forget to make use of vertical space for added storage. Baskets can conceal loose items and help keep your space tidy.
Take the time to plan your space. Remember, it has to be functional!
If your question hasn’t been answered here (or in the Mud Room article), please send me an email. I’ll do my best to help you solve your entryway and mud room challenges.
In case you missed last month’s topic, here’s the link to Mud Rooms.
Let’s get started and turn over another leaf!
Until next month,
Lemon Zucchini Bread and other September Recipes
Who doesn’t like quick and easy recipes? I can’t wait to try a few of these.
BBQ Chicken & Sweet Potato Sheet-Pan Dish
50 Make-Ahead Breakfasts for Busy Back-to-School Mornings
LEMON ZUCCHINI BREAD – Cathy Trochelman
Prep Time – 10 minutes
Cook Time – 50 minutes
TOTAL TIME – 1 hour
Ingredients
- 1 1/2 c. all purpose flour
- 1/2 tsp. baking soda
- 1/4 tsp. baking powder
- 1/4 tsp. salt
- 3/4 c. sugar
- 1 c. finely shredded, unpeeled zucchini
- 1/4 c. cooking oil
- 1 egg
- 2 Tbsp. lemon juice
- 2 Tbsp. finely shredded lemon peel
Glaze
- 1/2 c. powdered sugar
- 1 Tbsp. lemon juice
- 1 tsp. lemon zest
*Glaze can be doubled if desired.
INSTRUCTIONS
- In a medium mixing dish combine flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt; set aside.
- In a separate mixing dish combine sugar, zucchini, cooking oil, egg, lemon juice, and lemon peel. Stir to combine.
- Add dry ingredients to zucchini mixture; stir just until combined.
- Spoon batter into greased bread pan.
- Bake at 350F for 50-55 minutes or until golden brown and set.
- Cool in pan on a wire rack 15 minutes, then remove from pan and cool completely.
- Once cool, combine ingredients for glaze and drizzle over bread.
It’s never too late to make healthier choices!
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Mud Rooms
It’s September already!
As I’m putting together this edition, it is 23C (73F) and I’m out on my deck–even though we’ve already had frost a number of times. If you’re one of those people who doesn’t want summer to end, make sure you get outside and enjoy everything that fall has to offer.
I’m excited that I have become a grandmother! Congratulations to Jason and Amber on the birth of Nash Carter Blaxall on the morning of August 20. He’s adorable! Spending time with Nash has definitely been added to my list of priorities. I just wish they lived closer!
MUD ROOMS
Let’s talk about mud rooms. This topic piggybacks nicely on last month’s topic of laundry areas. While writing this article, I realized a separate discussion about front/main entryways is needed. Stay tuned!
When I Googled “mud room”, I found over 21,000,000 results–just a few more than expected!
Perhaps you’re one of the many people who wants a “to die for” mud room you’ve seen on Pinterest. Unless you’re building a new home or renovating, it may not be realistic. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find some great ideas and inspiration which can be adapted to your home.
While a mud room isn’t usually the main entrance to your home, it’s likely a very high traffic area. If you have a garage, often the door from the garage into the house leads to a mud room.
If you’re thinking about renovating to add/create a mud room, there are many things to consider. What are your expectations?
Take the time to plan your space. Make it as functional as possible. Yes, you want it to look nice, but it needs to function on a day-to-day basis. Nowadays, a main floor laundry is often located in this area. I frequently see clients who find it’s difficult to do laundry in a mud room when there is nowhere to store 15 pairs of shoes. Piles of dirty laundry on the floor often make the entrance impassable.
Unless you’re a designer, consulting a professional for his/her expert advice will be worth the investment.
Make a list of everything you would like to store in your mud room.
- Outerwear – Sweaters, coats, hats, scarves, mittens/gloves
- Footwear – Shoes, boots, sandals, flip flops
- Sports Equipment
- Backpacks
- Laundry Supplies – Detergent, fabric softener, stain remover, hamper, laundry basket(s), hangers – (if your laundry is located there)
- Pet Supplies – Food, water dish, leashes
Unless you have a large room, you will need to limit the number of items that can be stored there. Otherwise, disorganization can still occur.
REMEMBER – No amount of storage space will satisfy you if the people using the space don’t put things away. Designate homes–with LABELS–for everything! If your children don’t hang coats or jackets on hangers, consider adding some hooks. Hooks generally work better for young children. Just remember to hang them at a height they can reach!
Until next month,
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