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The Coffee Bean Technique

Posted on: January 17th, 2013 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

THE COFFEE BEAN TECHNIQUE
   (Author Unknown)

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how growing her business was so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

Twenty minutes later she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’

‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ the daughter replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Then the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, mother?’

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak and limp.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique. They changed the water, the very circumstance that brought the adversity.

When the water gets hot, the coffee bean releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when you face challenges, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? Do you choose to handle adversity like a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; but they make the most of everything.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures.

Do you have an effective strategy for handling business and life challenges – for being the coffee bean?



A Life Lesson from Marilu Henner

Posted on: January 15th, 2013 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.”

                                                                                    -Marilu Henner



A Word of Wisdom from Richard Bach

Posted on: December 18th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is the way one uses them.”                                                                – Richard Bach



Wise Words from Theodore Roosevelt…

Posted on: November 8th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing.”           



Wise words from Paul J. Meyer

Posted on: October 12th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“Productivity is never an accident.  It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.”                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        – Paul J. Meyer

                                                                                                                         



Eat That Frog Part 1

Posted on: September 25th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

Have you heard the expression “Eat That Frog” before? It’s the phrase that Brian Tracy uses “as a metaphor for tackling the most challenging task of your day.”

Many of us procrastinate when it comes getting started on tasks we don’t really want to do. I’d like to share some information from EAT THAT FROG! 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (ISBN 978-1-57675-422-1)–one of my favourite productivity books.

Here are Brian’s first 7 ways to stop procrastinating and get more things done faster.

1. “Set the table: Decide exactly what you want. Clarity is essential. Write out your … objectives before you begin.

2. Plan every day in advance: Think on paper. Every minute [spent planning can reduce your actual time spent on action by five or ten minutes].

3. Apply the 80/20 Rule to everything: Twenty percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results. Always concentrate your efforts on that top 20 percent.

4. Consider the consequences: Your most important tasks and priorities are those that can have the most serious consequences, positive or negative, on your life or work. Focus on these above all else.

5. Practice creative procrastination: Since you can’t do everything, you must learn to deliberately put off those tasks that are of low value so that you have enough time to do the few things that really count.

6. Use the ABCDE Method continually: Before you begin work on a list of tasks, take a few moments to organize them by value and priority so you can be sure of working on your most important activities.

7. Focus on key result areas: Identify and determine those results that you absolutely, positively have to get to do your [work] well, and work on them all day long.”

Stay tuned to the next edition for more tips!

Take action and EAT THAT FROG!



Wise Words from Aristotle!

Posted on: September 19th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”                                                                                                                                                                                 – Aristotle

 



Getting Organized for Back to School

Posted on: September 11th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

 

Cathy Mendler

Fall is here—with its coloured leaves (if you live in eastern Canada or the United States), cool nights, and a crispness in the air!  The lazy days of summer are almost behind us, and we’re getting back into our busy routines.

So let’s get started and turn over another leaf!

“We can lick gravity, but sometimes the paperwork is overwhelming.”  Wernher von Braun

ORGANIZING SCHOOL AND HOME PAPERWORK

Back to school brings with it much more than structured routines and homework—a seemingly endless stream of paper!

Here are some suggestions to help you handle all of that paper.

Designated Paperwork Area

Designate one area where you will deal with paperwork.  Use a tray or basket as an inbox.  Get everyone in the family into the habit of using it.  If it doesn’t go in the inbox, it won’t get looked at.  Remember–it can take up to 21 times repeating an action before it becomes a habit.  Gentle reminders will help the process when you first start.  Perhaps you can offer a small reward as an incentive.

Routine
Having a routine for keeping paperwork under control is critical.  When your children get home from school, have them unload their knapsacks—dirty lunch containers go in the sink or dishwasher, books go to their homework or study area, paperwork goes to the inbox, etc.

Calendar and Activities Schedule
The family calendar should be kept in your designated paperwork area.  All activities should be put onto one calendar.  Keeping more than one calendar up to date is difficult; it usually results in missed appointments.  Label each family member’s activities in a different colour; let your children pick their favourite colour.

Once you add all of your children’s extra-curricular activities to the calendar, you may realize that they are overscheduled.  Remember that it’s OK to limit the number of activities for each child.  Your children need some time to just be kids!

Reference Binder
A three-ring binder can be used to store frequently used information–names and phone numbers for your dentist, school, babysitter, veterinarian or lawn care company.  Lists for children’s sports activities and take-out menus can also be included.

Tickler File
Set up a tickler file.  A tickler file system consists of folders with tabs for each month and day of the month.  This system should hold all of your current household paper—bills to pay, receipts, coupons, wedding invitations, etc.  A file cabinet should contain your non-current household paper.

If you would like further information on setting up a tickler file, please contact us.

Schedule Time for Paperwork
Set aside a few minutes every day to deal with paperwork.  What’s important is that it happens on a regular basis as required.  Review paperwork in the late afternoon or evening.  It is less stressful than trying to deal with it as everyone is trying to get ready and out the door in the morning!

Don’t forget to place signed permission slips, tests or notes into the children’s knapsacks as soon as possible after completion in order to avoid misplacing them.

Artwork and Projects
Is your fridge or bulletin board covered in artwork?  Each child should have their own box for artwork and projects.  Let your child have fun and decorate the box.  Place a folder inside for current masterpieces.  At the end of the month (or whatever time period you decide), ask your child to select his or her favourite piece or two.  You’ll run out of space in no time if you keep all of them.  If necessary, take photos of bigger projects and artwork that they decide not to keep.  Remember to label each box with the year and grade.

Keep it Simple
Don’t make your system for dealing with paperwork more complicated than it needs to be.  Controlling your family’s paper will be much easier if you keep it simple.

I invite you to share our newsletter with your friends and family. As well, I welcome your feedback and suggestions.

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Wise Words from Tom Bodett

Posted on: August 15th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“The difference between school and life?  In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test.  In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” 

                                                                       -Tom Bodett



Wise Words from Paul J. Meyer

Posted on: July 25th, 2012 by Cathy Mendler No Comments

“Productivity is never an accident.  It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.”  

-Paul J. Meyer